A Virginia home schooled girl was recently kicked out of prom because a group of dads were allegedly lusting after her.
17-yr-old Clare Ettinger recently wrote about her horrible experience on her sister’s blog, Wine and Marble.
According to Clare she and her boyfriend went to the prom together. She was really excited about her dress and made sure that it complied with the home school association’s dress code, which stated that a girl’s dress must be “finger length.”
However, when she got to the prom one of the organizers pulled her aside and said her dress was too short. Clare showed her it was in fact finger length, and the lady let her go on in, as long as she promised to keep it pulled down.
Clare said she laughed because once inside the ballroom there were girls with much shorter dresses.
Clare says before she even got a chance to dance, she was approached by the same woman and asked to step aside. The woman than told her, “some of the dads who were chaperoning had complained that my dancing was too provocative, and that I was going to cause the young men at the prom to think impure thoughts.”
Clare made it clear that she wasn’t dancing at all and once again showed the woman that her dress was the appropriate length, but the advisor just wasn’t listening. In the end, Clare and her group of friends were kicked out of the prom, and despite that the fact that they were all told they would get refunds for the tickets, Clare was the only one who got her money back.
“I was told that the way I dressed and moved my body was causing men to think inappropriately about me, implying that it is my responsibility to control other people’s thoughts and drives,” Clare writes.
Since the blog, people from all over took to the Facebook page of the Richmond Homeschool Prom to express their disgust at the situation, and the administrators deleted all the comments. Now, they have deleted their page altogether.
The entire incident is infuriating. First of all, Clare was not in the wrong. She clearly was abiding by the dress code.
Second, the fact that she was “shamed” into making her feel as though she was doing something wrong or acting like a little hooch, is not right. If anyone should have been kicked out it should have been the perverted dads. It’s not Clare’s fault they were being inappropriate. And it’s not her fault that the woman’s husband was probably one of the men making glances at Clare.
I’m glad that people are taking Clare’s side. Because being a sexist, jealous, patriarchal, hypocrite is not a good look on anyone.
And that’s today’s helping of The Online Dish with Maggie.