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HOUSTON—A recent study by the American Psychological Association revealed that 40 to 50 percent of all marriages end in divorce. With stats like these there’s no wonder that over 12 million couples live together unmarried.

So what’s the key to having a healthy and happy relationship? Relationship therapist Dr. Viviana says it all comes down to sex.

Not sure how to start the sex talk with your partner?

“ The next time you are out walking the dogs a simple what did you like best about the last time we messed around could do the trick,” said Viviana.

Still not sure about  your approach? Don’t worry, Dr. Viviana has a list that you can follow.

Dr. Viviana’s talk it over sex steps:

  1. Walk and Talk.
  2. Offer up positives first.
  3. Keep conversations short, cap it at 20 minutes.
  4. Never bring it up during the actual act.

Dr. Viviana says that talking about what you desire in the bedroom is just the beginning. Adding something new to a dull sex routine can prove to be what’s been missing.

So how do you incorporate new things?

“Keep your skill level in mind and remember baby steps can be just as fun,” said Viviana. ”  “Whether you don’t know what you like yet or you just don’t feel connected enough with your spouse, feeling uneasy about your sex life is something you can get help with.”

Check out these helpful tips below:

  1. Don’t shoot for the stars.
  2. Baby steps will keep you coming back for more.
  3. Do your research together.
  4. Keep expectations realistic.